It’s a selfish thing about people that just bugs me, just a few minutes ago I just overheard on the commute to work a guy who was commenting about his breakup with his gf, and his friend (a lady) tells him that it’s alright and that it isn’t the end, then she starts to give examples about how it was before she met her fiancé. I couldn’t help but give her a glance, the hell kind of friend is this?? I thought.
I understand how the guy feels, he just found himself single again and he is going to miss having someone to share everything with, I’m not even talking about just the physical side of things. I’m referring to someone he can go hang out with and share his goals with, his friend does make sense though when she says that a breakup isn’t the end, he can always move on.
What annoyed me? was how casually she went to talking about her relationship, what on earth gave her the right when she has no idea how he’s feeling right now? she’s going to get off work later and hang out with her fiancé and be happy with what she has, he is going to go home and hear all about it later on either Facebook or Twitter. She was going on about it for almost a half hour.
How can she be so damn selfish patting herself on the back when someone is looking for support? I bet she wouldn’t appreciate it if the roles were reversed and he was gloating, some people only think about what they have and rarely what others need..
The Wandering Poet 
It is true. The value of a listening ear is not taught – only experienced. And once, we’ve been in a place where we need someone to listen (and that person wasn’t there) … we know how to respond later.
I Agree, so happy i’m not alone on this thought, thank you for reading my blog~! 🙂
So many people have learned the technique of sharing a personal experience to encourage and uplift someone. But with those SAME people they have forgotten the first half of the equation. Let the person talk, let them share their feelings, thoughts, frustrations. Insure that they feel heard, (there are so many ways to do that but people have forgotten or never learned), then if you think it will help THEM (not you) share a similar situation you were in. But it all boils down to motive, if the person was focused on the friend, she may have shared the same story but shorter and focused on him. But too often we do not want to be in pain and we don’t want to listen to another person’s pain, so we try to talk about topics that are as far away from that as possible.
All that being said… yes very selfish.
I completely agree, it really DOES boil down to motive and to me it really felt more like she found a chance to gloat about her relationship more than listen to him, at the very most i only heard him say two words while she selfishly went on about her life. If it were him i would of preferred to just simply ignore, but he seemed to have decided to listen to her instead.