Weekend with my little lady

This Saturday, my little lady and I went to watch ” Puss in boots ” 3D. It was one of those movies I was skeptical on since this is the first time I’ve seen a character out of Shrek to star solo, but! hey! it had funny scenes and a lot of great punch lines. Although a few that made most kids go “huh?” overall though? great movie! 

The only gripe I had was the theatre seemed to have problems with keeping audio going, it happens. The one other thing I hated though? was watching a mother of a child give her daughter nothing but horrid attitude, the mother grudgingly climbed a flight of stairs in the theatre and proceeded to hand her daughter a drink. The daughter was grateful and asked her mother to join her, then the mother yelled “Just take it!!” and stormed out the theatre, leaving the child completely baffled and lost in thought. It could of been a perfect moment, but then this had to happen. The father of the young girl gave her a hug and everything was alright in minutes.

Honestly, it doesn’t matter what the situation was. There’s no good reason for what happened there, the fact that the daughter wanted her mother to join? could of been a perfect afternoon, but to leave a child scarred emotionally like that? boy, it takes a different kind of low. That’s just my opinion though, my apologies if I sound harsh. 

 

A blunt opinion on parenting

The other day, I overheard two different parents talk about ways to discipline their kids. One parent chose the ultimatum that either her son gets a job or she’s kicking him out of the house. The other parent was complaining about how her daughter has yet to give her anything for her bday. Yeah thats what her words were, Neither of them had any problems with everyone else hearing all this, I couldn’t help but wonder two things. First, what were they hoping to gain from doing this? and second why haven’t they considered talking to their kids? they ARE human beings too! I’m not saying I’m a perfect parent or that I have all the answers, but my daughter always tells me that her mother’s too busy to chat with her. So, what I do often is my daughter and I go out for ice cream and talk like best friends. Sometimes we go paddling a boat and just talk about my experiences when I was her age, as a result she understands my expectations and what’s on my mind too. Isn’t that much easier than ultimatums like those two parents? I certainly would think so..!

 

Of creation

 

We create what we don’t have. Yet, we still manage to destroy what we devoted out hearts and minds to, what is the point then? if people can’t appreciate what is given to them? when all they do is continue to tear down what is given?

 

A blunt opinion on speaking your mind

Say what you want, mean what you say and don’t ever let anything hold you back. This is your life, if people want to be a part of you then they will understand and respect your opinions. If they don’t, then they clearly didn’t accept you as you are and it’s time to move on from them.

 

When one’s worth can be set in numbers

It’s a sad thing, when some people think they are too perfect or too full of themselves to make the effort to simply greet or respond to someone who’s simply giving a friendly greeting, what is it that gives such level of arrogance to think they are worthy of being on such a high pedestal? is it based on how much someone has in terms of income or reputation now? i wonder at times what makes human nature fall so far, that the worth of man can be set in numbers. Am i the only one who feels this way? or am i being too selfish myself?

 

Being excluded – A blunt opinion

When people start to exclude you from certain conversations that you used to share with them, it’s time to realize that you no longer matter enough to them to treat you like a person.

Someone who’s true to you, will never give you any reason to think that you’re someone they can just toss to the side when your served your purpose. It’s sad, but people like these are the ones we all encounter in our lives. So, will you choose to let them walk all over you or cut them lose? they already did it to you after all.

 

The ones that matter

If ever asked what I thought was the biggest lesson in life always ignored, I’d have to say knowing who matters to us in the end are the ones who are always there for us through it all, Compared to the ones that were always chasing after their own dreams and ambitions, to really care. Imagine how easily one forgets that huh?

 

When people value others on income

I’m often reminded about how much money and power influences my worth to someone, it seems that some people value material possessions, over honest and sincere traits from the heart such as devotion and dedication.

I then find myself asking, when did people stop valuing traits such as honesty and start making excuses with gifts? has it really become the only measure of one’s worth to someone? something to think about.

 

If some people would start honest

It’s a funny thing about people, these days everyone wants to get a feeling about you first. Before they decide whether or not to talk to you, I can’t say I blame them with the way society is these days. People lie, scheme and plot to get what they want.

Maybe if people could be more honest from the start, nobody would ever have to go through so much trouble. Am I the only one that feels this way?

 

Don’t let anything get in the way

If you decided already which direction your life is headed, then let nothing stop you from reaching that goal.

Nobody can stop you now but yourself, make the right choices and everything will fall into place on their own. Make the wrong ones though, and you will have nobody to blame by yourself.

 

Why hold it all in..

It’s hard sometimes when we choose the wrong words to say during a really bad moment,  it is completely unintentional. I can’t think of anyone who would want to ruin a perfectly conversation on purpose. So, when someone does that to you just how do you react? do you end the conversation then and there or do you continue and pretend like it was never said? personally, i would continue the conversation that was originally there. Then, when the time is right the accidental slip of the tongue can be revisited.

Sometimes, we tend to hold back so many thoughts and emotions when we are around people that we bury it as far down as we can. The problem is, the deeper you bury it the more chances it will come back up when you least expect it. So, why not just always be honest about what you are feeling? no buried emotions means no worries about what you might accidentally say later right? something to think about .

 

It is my end of the week..

It’s only Thursday, but since i’m off tomorrow. This will be my Friday, this week has probably been the most difficult. Not only did my coworker make his rumor even worse, but he has made me the devil and him the hero among a group of people. It was disappointing to see that they would rather side my coworker who is insanely hated by a number of departments in the building except one, but it has taught me a valuable lesson.

If people are willing to side with someone who is taking advantage of their trust, then what would that say about the people that i am trying to win the trust of? is it worth it? no, i guess it wouldn’t be would it? people who feel they can give me a chance to tell my side, are worth my effort and people who feel the need to shut me out without a chance aren’t worth it to me. Having said that, i leave it to god and prayfully the wisdom of those who are being fooled by a silver tongued snake.

 

Proud of my daughter finally grown up

Earlier today, as my angel and i were coming back to my place after having dinner at the mall she saw a guy pumping out loud music in a BMW X5. She saw a girl sit beside the car in sunglasses looking very smug around at everyone, i guess my baby girl didn’t take kindly to that and she looked at me asking me if she’s really that happy. I asked her what she meant cause the girl in the car just turned around at us and gave us a dirty look for no good reason, then she looked up at me and stated that maybe if the guy didn’t have such an expensive car that girl probably wouldn’t be dating him anymore. I looked at her for a second in pride knowing my daughter had finally grown up.

So i asked her if money does buy happiness, she stopped walking for a second then looked me in the eyes and said “No”. I’m so glad she understands this concept, that material possessions don’t buy happiness. It doesn’t carry feelings and it doesn’t speak to you when you are in pain or in need of the human touch, i know how blunt and maybe rude this sounds. But it’s how i feel about it, i live a rather modest life and with my daughter’s love, i have all i could ever want and need.

 

When we see the trap but we willingly fall into it still..

In some relationships, we fall into a trap despite all the warnings we see. It’s easy to think that you can give up everything that defines you just to gain the acceptance of the one you are in love with, it’s all good and fine and nothing will change your mind because you feel that as long as you are with someone you want. Everything will be just fine, but if it’s not always fine then you are just setting yourself up for a really painful ending, because you lose who you were all along and will be lost constantly trying to figure out what someone else wants. But not what you want, if someone loves you as you are. Then you would never need to change or give up anything.

 

 

Thoughts i realized last night..

I really don’t know if i’m the only one who feels this way, but i think i’m done wasting my time caring too much about some people feelings. I’m always concerning myself with wondering if i’m hurting someone’s feelings when i say something, or how they would see me if i voiced my opinions. I’m not being selfish either, it’s just that all the while i’m thinking all these things i realized that i’m neglecting my own feelings. I needed someone to talk to last night, that’s why i was up till 3am in the morning last night. If it wasnt’ for a friend sending me a message at 2ish in the morning, that i felt that someone cared enough to let me feel at peace, no. I’m not needy, just once in a while it would be nice if someone cared about how i feel for once.

 

 

When they leave..a blunt opinion

When someone tells you they want to leave, don’t push them to stay. They made up their minds the moment they said those words, let them go not because you are bitter but because you want to give them a chance to see what life would be without you. If you really mattered, then they would of never wanted to leave in the first place.

 

 

Setting standards..a blunt opinion..

Earlier today i went out for a walk to get some fresh air and i could hear two people in the distance debating over something, it was on my general direction so i walked past and overheard a lady tell another about how they should start to set standards middle of a relationship with their boyfriends. They were talking a mile a second so before i even walked half way past them i heard something along the lines of control. At this point i was roughly 5 feet away from them, yeah they were pretty loud.

But, still. Setting standards in the middle of a relationship? I’m sorry but that’s like saying that someone’s not good enough for you after you’ve accepted them and so they have to change for you, well. I’m sorry but i don’t change for anyone. This is how i am and this is how someone will have to accept me from the beginning, if they can’t then i’m moving on. I don’t have time for those kinds of people, just saying.

 

Rude waiting

If there’s one thing i dislike, is the waiting. I am a patient person when i know what’s going on but when people leave me hanging throughout the entire day? that’s what i really dislike. I can understand some cases where work has to come first, we are all in that situation often but when someone just leaves you middle of a chat while obviously chatting it up with someone else? i’m sorry that just tells me how little i’m worth and i’m not wasting anymore time with you. especially when i don’t get so much as a simple ‘brb’, maybe i’m being childish about this but when it happens every other time? that’s when I’ve already moved on, just saying!

 

What real beauty is in my eyes..a blunt opinion..

Real beauty isn’t about having the fairest skin or the slimmest body, it’s not even about wearing the latest trend of clothes and keeping up with the newest trinkets. It’s not even about the need of being the popular girl that everyone wants, these are all trivial compared to what the words describe. Real flawless beauty is in a person who’s willing to give up everything for others even if there’s nothing to gain from it. It’s about sacrificing something just to make a difference in other’s lives and not doing so to be remembered for the sake of gratitude but only because someone’s life has been touched in a good way, this is a beauty much more radiant than that of someone who puts their own needs and desires before others.

 

On the subject of Denial

 

I saw a blog about someone giving up on trying to save a relationship, the blogger suggested that one of the ways to get over the painful heartbreak was to find someone who resembled and seemed like the relationship she had, now. I don’t judge people’s writings because everyone is entitled to their own opinion, that’s why we all write. But, to me that would be more like denial. Now, remember! i’m not being rude or judging. It’s just that if you are going to fill your broken heart with someone who reminds you of your last relationship, how can that possibly be called moving on? or even really loving? all you’d be doing is expecting your new partner to be like your last, each day would be endless conflicts and disagreements. I’m sorry, but if things didn’t work out for me with someone. Then that’s it, obviously i wasn’t good enough for her and i should move on. But, i don’t replace people. That’s for very shallow and very selfish people, don’t know how i could even begin to do something like that.