Protests have erupted on the streets of the Indian city of New Delhi after reports that a 5-year-old girl was kidnapped and brutally raped and tortured by her neighbor. The girl was found locked in a room two days after she went missing from the yard of her family’s home. Her 22-year-old neighbour Manoj Kumar has since been arrested.
A doctor looking after the young girl said: “Her blood pressure was low.
When does it become too much? How long before the governing bodies ACTUALLY do something about this? Clearly ethics and humanity is no longer part of the regular life to some.
This morning, My daughter and I went to have our brunch at Ikea. I am in love with their meatballs and my daughter really enjoys their haddock with a side of fries, It’s something we do every so often to spend some real quality time. Talk about anything and everything, It’s something I am very grateful that my daughter grants me at her age of 12.
As we were eating, I noticed a mom, A father and a little guy between them. She was very petite and barely inches above her son. Something about the way she handled herself really caught my eye, the cashier was very new at his job and fumbled quite a bit but the expression on her face, was that of someone who had so much innocence and sweet personality that she calmed the cashier down with just a smile and brought him confidence. It’s hard to explain, but I think that’s all the cashier needed to get his day really started. Yet, the young mom just carried on with her husband and son to the dining table, without realizing the sweet act she just did, she just enjoyed her meal with her son and there was this connection between the two. I didn’t see one adult and a child but two very happy souls enjoying a simple meal, It looked like such a sweet moment.
It truly warms my heart that people like her are among us, People who so naturally see the best in people and brings it out of them with nothing more than just a warm smile, Comes to show..How amazing the human heart truly can be!
I saw the news about this a few minutes ago, Sadly. There are still trolls who commented on this video. But, I hope this raises awareness when it comes to bullying.
This weekend, My little lady and I decided to visit the Olympic Village. In downtown Vancouver. I have to confess, I haven’t been there since 2010 when the Winter Olympics was over. During the event the area was restricted only to the athletes and since then I’ve been busy at work, So I figured that since we have the time. Why not?
Upon arriving in the area, we found parking to be insanely difficult. Which is strange, considering over 80% of the village condos were still available for sale. Each one is almost a million dollars a piece, The local newspapers had been saying a ton of negative things about the place. But you know what? it really is nice! there’s not much noise from the main roads and it really does feel like a small village, My daughter and I didn’t have to dodge cars or anything.
The biggest reason I wanted to come visit though, was to take a look for myself just what is out here. Thing is, I can see all of this from my workplace and It didn’t seem right for me to not at least take a peek, even if it’s to see this giant bird here! let me tell you, If Sylvester had seen this bird he wouldn’t think about chasing after tweety bird again! oh no!
Just in case Sylvester tries though? right across the other side, there’s another one. I am very impressed by the details the artist put into his work, Kudos to the effort put in to make it look so life like. It looks brand new despite how it’s been over a year since it was installed, how’s that for craftsmanship huh?
Overall, As short as a visit as it was? it really is a nice place to visit sometime just to sit back and relax, it’s easy enough to get here since the skytrain system does stop here. I know this is a short post and I apologize since I’ve been really busy lately, But I hope you enjoyed the pictures ^_^
If there’s ever a place that my little lady will always choose to go, It will be a trip to “Original Cupcakes“. They have several locations in downtown Vancouver and they are worth the trip!
I love how they make the place so easy to find, especially with a bit of a retro feel to it. The real attraction though? is their tons of selections of cupcake, the most popular is of course red velvet cupcake and then the lemon, followed by the chocolate.
If you order a boxful, they place them into this nice package. They fit very nicely and maintains freshness in the fridge, If you’re in the area? I super recommend you hear on down for one of these delicious treats!
Every few weekends, I will take my daughter out with me for a bonding moment. This is a very special and very meaningful moment for me, where she and I discuss and share stories and I pass words of wisdom to her. When she was an infant, she would look at me with her curious eyes as I told stories. Since then, I’ve always cherished every moment I spend with her. So, this weekend we shared our moment at East Side Mario’s. The decor of the place has always been of interest to me and the best part? all 80′s music! heck yeah!
The walls were all decorated with different pictures of better times, I wanted to take pictures of the surroundings but it was so packed. I didn’t want to seem strange, so I settled for this picture instead. My daughter and I spent a good while going through the menu, Lots of great choices! all very traditional and great tasting italian foods. So, how to decide what to get? well. I guess you’d have to ask my daughter, I was too busy taking pictures of my lovely date.
The restaurant also has the usual main features that you would expect from an Italian restaurant, such as the all you can eat in house made garlic bread and butter on the side.
Now, When I say in house bread? I mean fresh out of the oven! look how little crumbs there are on that cutting board, the knife went right through and the aroma was amazing, My daughter and I went through two of those long before the food finally arrived.
My daughter ordered the Mario’s Classic Chicken Parmigiana. It’s not as cheesed up as the picture currently shows here, My apologies for that. The server offered to give us extra cheese and I didn’t want to make her stand around while I took a picture, the service by the way? was amazing! everything I asked for came right away in a busy place, not once did I ever feel like I was asking for too much. If that makes any sense?
I ordered the Scallop Carbonera. Unfortunately, for this dish. Even if you took away the grated cheese the food looked nothing like on the menu, the pasta was perfect but the bacon was incredibly dried out and the stick soaked up a lot of the flavors. As for my daughter’s dish it was perfect in every way down to the tenderness of the chicken, I didn’t even have to use the knife! I think she and I spent most of the time talking about the differences in our dishes and how much she enjoyed hers, rather than my plate.
One of the greatest things about this restaurant, Was the giant bowl of salad that came with the meal. Yes, I know. Why am I talking about a salad when I should be enjoying my spaghetti right? well. It just Isn’t Italian without proper caesar. The lettuce was crisp and fresh and the croutons weren’t soft like I always find, Unfortunately, the salad wasn’t all you can eat which I was really disappointed about but oh well! there’s always the next time.
We spent a good hour and a half chatting more than we were eating, She’s 10 years old now and has so many stories. I don’t get to see her except the weekends so it’s always great knowing what my beautiful angel has on her mind, It is only when I’m with her that I truly feel at peace. She heals me and renews me so I can take on whatever else comes from the weekdays. What more can a proud father ask for, than spend quality time with his child right?
So, Despite my food not being particularly tasty? I give this restaurant a salute for making my moment with my daughter memorable! my daughter and I spent the rest of the afternoon sightseeing like tourists, pictures will be posted soon as I do some touch ups on them.
Oh, Did I mention we had two oreo Mcflurry’s to celebrate the incredible weather we were having? there’s a saying, It’s not the spices that make a great meal. It is the company you have and the great times that you spend that make it a memorable experience. Definitely will be coming back to the restaurant again soon! ^_^
This weekend was special, my little lady wanted to go shopping at Aberdeen Centre Mall. She said she needed some supplies, so after her Kumon classes we went straight there. Then after spinning around the mall parkade forever we finally found a parking spot and went straight to Daiso, i love this little Gem. Everything in there is roughly $2 bucks to $2.50 on a two for one deal for snacks, they also carry everything from household supplies to school supplies too. Unfortunately my camera battery had gone next to nothing, so i couldn’t take a lot of pictures. I wish i had it better charged, because they had decorated the entire mall into the Chinese New Year Theme, it was neat!
We also spent a great deal of time chatting about my blog, as it turns out. She had been a huge fan of it and had been keeping up with my current posts, she didn’t ask me who my poems and quotes were for but enjoyed the posts about her very much. How do i know? because this lucky dad got a kiss on the cheek and a very loving hug for the posts! reading my blog reinforced her interest in writing and in creating stories at school, i see someone quickly becoming quite the blogger here! never too early or late to teach a child the art of expressing one self either on a diary or blog
This past Saturday, i invited Alina to join me in an adventure into my childhood. When i was around her age our family moved from Chile to Vancouver, i barely spoke English without a really strong Spanish accent so one day i decided to practice reading. The first book i pulled out of the library? was the adventures of Tintin, the book was in fact titled “Tintin and the secret of the unicorn” i remember i had the hardest time reading the book but in time i found myself borrowing book after book to read, the author was an absolute genius! his stories were creative and easy to follow and not to mention hilarious!
So, when i saw this trailer at the movie theater i knew i had to take Alina to watch it. Initially she just wanted to see snowy in action, but slowly she started to really enjoy captain Haddock’s hilarious drunk moments. I don’t want to spoil the movie of course, but the characters were so well designed you would think these were real live characters acting. All the way from expressions to the intense action, Spielberg left nothing out just like all his movies. Trust me, your eyes will want to be stuck to the screen like glue because it’s constant suspense and action. There were even couples who went to watch it together and they didn’t look at each other once through it all, be warned though! for everyone who do read the comics? be ready for a very loud high pitch singing familiar face! again, i’m not spoiling the movie <wink>
Every year, there are only two things I look forward to. First, is spending my birthdays with my little lady and Christmas eve with her as well. She’s 10 right now, but I do know that she’s going to be a teen very soon. So, this year I have been truly blessed! I spent the second Christmas eve with her! we had a great time! watching my old childhood favorite movies such as “Honey I shrunk the kids” and “Home alone”. She didn’t understand the whole 80′s and 90′s but! isn’t that what passing on memories is all about? sharing thoughts and stories while having a great time?
Alina preparing gravy! a must have
Turkey! we still have more than half leftover oy!
Baked marshmallow on Yam
Smoked salmon wrapped around cucumber
Greetings from me and my little lady!
Oh by the way, this year we don’t have an actual Christmas tree, we placed my aquarium in the spot that the tree normally seats. So, we bought a mini tree and put decorations on it. In the end though? it looked great! because all the gifts looked piled up good lol! so! I wanted to share it with all of you, hope you all had a great Christmas too!
As a toddler, Alina had a tendency to grab anything made of cardboard or paper and destroying it. I guess that’s a way of learning about how things break and how things work, i have to admit. I was the same way when i was her age, but if there was ever one thing she never destroyed? it was the IKEA catalog, she would spend hours sitting down and pointing at the pictures she saw. Of course, at that age she had no idea what on earth Ikea was and she loved it when i took her there for the first time. Boy, we’d spend hours and hours! now, at the age of 10 we mainly go to shop for new living room and house decorating ideas. Also a way to catch up, today we went for some Christmas decoration ideas and to find a way to renovate my room, at the same time it was a chance for her and i to catch up on events that happened over the week. I only see her once on alternate weekends so i want to hear it all, it’s a great experience for me because she’s now 10 years old and i know that in a few years we might lose this moment. So, we decided to sit down with a cup of coffee for myself and a carton of milk for herself. With a side of a small cake, i had signed her up for more competitive swimming programs over the Christmas break. She was really excited about it, so she had a lot to tell me about what she would like to try next. I wish i had more time, i learn so much just watching her grow up
Sorry about the bad resolution, it was yummy! ice cream filling with strawberry
Almost an hour later, she wanted to go to the Kid’s section. She said she wanted to see how much things changed, reason being that she had grown up so fast. That she missed out on a lot of things, how fast? well i’m 5’11″ and her head is already past my shoulder. So, this was kind of a way for her to take a peek at how far she’s come. In some ways, it may sound like just another weekend but believe me! for a single father like myself? every moment is a precious one
If you don’t eat your greens! Mr. Carrot will come visit you?
We wrapped up our shopping at IKEA with a bag of chips and a refilled cup of coffee along with a big smile, i got a chance to catch up some more and she got a chance to talk to me. Oh, in case some of you are asking how come i say catching up? well, things between me and my ex wife are very complicated and she won’t let me have any communication with Alina. So, we talk whenever we have a chance
Hey Ikea, how much to nail up my bed and my desk high up??
So, this last weekend was great! Alina performed at her annual Christmas piano recital. As always, she performed great! too bad it was in a noisy community center with a bunch of screaming kids and a Christmas fair all in one room. Yeah, the acoustics were little to non but hey! all 16 kids from her piano school performed! oh and of course yet again my daughter is still the tallest kid among the group lol!
After the recital, we hanged out at home and spent some time relaxing, then at night i rewarded her great performance with a dinner at The Boss Bakery & Restaurant. To be honest, the food wasn’t all that great. Alina had ordered a baked pork fillet rice dish with tomato sauce. Sadly, all the chef did was put a ton of sauce on top of the fillet but not bottom of the pork itself. As a result, the taste was very bland.
For my dish, i ordered curry with beef brisket on white rice. I love curry but, the rice was all clumped up together. Then, they served me runny curry with tiny bits of beef inside as well as hard potato instead of soft, i felt like making a complaint to the chef, but i didn’t want to ruin this perfect moment with Alina since she was all excited about having dinner with me.
But! at least Alina was happy! she thoroughly enjoyed her dinner and the funny thing is, she enjoyed the curry that i didn’t enjoy and barely touched her dinner. This, from a child that refused to even go near curry because she feared it would be spicy! guess she really has grown up! i sure am a super proud father
In the past few weeks, Alina has been forgetting things at my place every time she comes for a sleepover. Then, I end up having to drop it off for her at school, why so soon? because it tends to be one of the things she really needs. Like, piano books or homework from her math and reading club! lol!
It’s funny, how kids these days imitate the little things we adults do, like finding reasons just so we can see someone again. There are times when she knows I’ll show up the next day, so she packs a little bag of cookies or a granola bar for me as a thank you for spending the recess with her. What more can a father ask for?? ^.^
Earlier this morning, during my usual routine of sitting at the main reception area at work for the first hour i came across an interesting article. It was titled “Wash your hands before you touch mine”. The article spoke about how strangers have a habit of wanting to touch other people’s babies, When my little one was born. I thought i was paranoid when we were at the hospital and people would want to hold ‘n touch her, i of course politely declined and kept her in my arms as i didn’t want someone’s germs getting on her. Especially when she was only born a few hours! So apparently now they came out with blankets that say exactly that! “Wash your hands before you touch mine” what a great idea! gets the awkwardness of saying no out of the way right? what was the experience for you folks with your children when they were born? oh and am i making any sense on this post?
This weekend sure was different, i normally would see my little lady on Saturday morning and we’d have our father ‘n daughter date. The original plan was to go catch Happy Feet 2 but she had to take her OFA Level 1 course at Saint John’s which meant i couldn’t pick her up until the afternoon, well that sure was a lot of fun finally getting to the school. Then finding out that i was out in the wonderful downpour with 6 other parents, i can appreciate the school safeguarding the students inside but yeah it wasn’t fun. Anyways, almost an hour later someone came out from the school to let us in. After i picked up my beautiful little cadet we went to do some shopping at her favorite mall! Aberdeen centre mall in Richmond to do some shopping at Daiso, can’t go wrong with $2 dollar stores that sell quality stuff from Japan including snacks!
After that, we went to our dinner date at Richmond Sushi (Yeah the link says that it is owned by a group called top gun but believe me, it’s just for the sake of the way it sounds in chinese. There are no Tom Cruise appearences i assure you). It was great! Alina and i got a chance to catch up over the week and discuss her interest in whether or not she wanted to work on her first aid skills or improve on her swimming competition readiness. She’s a natural swimmer, but she’s got a heart of gold that wants to help others so it’s a really difficult choice. Am i not such a blessed dad to have such a wonderful daughter? it was just me, her and the sushi which she absolutely loves! what a way to wrap up a stressful day for her since she was stuck in class for over 7 hours right? on Sunday, we just did some Christmas shopping and it’s pretty cute how she went from a 6 month old toddler i had to push around in a stroller to a 10 year old with wonderful gift ideas what can i say? this was the best weekend to ever ask for below, are some pictures of our hanging out and oh yeah i didn’t take a whole lot of pictures because i was too hungry at the restaurant what? i skipped lunch!
My married life was complicated by several factors including a very angry mother in law, so my ex wife went through a lot of pressure being pregnant and playing mediator. In the midst of tension building up our daughter was born, she was too young to understand and went through a lot of confusion. I made a promise though at her baby crib after I held her to sleep, that I wouldn’t let this conflict hurt her.
It hasn’t been easy, my ex wife made several accusations that were all fabricated by her family and groups. But, I’ve stood my ground each time and in turn I’ve raised a very loving daughter. I won’t deny that it’s been difficult, I’ve had to go through a lot of trials but I’ve succeeded in them all. The key is to keep the children out of the conflict, this way they learn all of life’s difficult situations on their own.
I had been walking home from work earlier today as i normally do, listening to my music as usual and watching life around me. I always turn the volume down on my earphones as i walk past, there’s nothing more calming after a hectic day than the sound of children’s laughter. As i made the first of a series of turns i saw a young baby girl in her mother’s arms happily, until her father took a picture of her and she tried to reach over. Unfortunately, the father had his hands full carrying a camera. But, i could tell he really wanted to carry his baby angel. How i envied the young couple, This is the most beautiful part of parenthood. The tender love and the way a young angel says “I trust you to carry me” in her own way, they have so much to look forward to. Everything from the first steps, to the first complete sentences. If everyone was to see life in so much wonder such as that of through a child’s eyes, what a world would that be? wouldn’t it?
I am seeing this happen too often, little ones trailing behind their parents. They don’t even look back once to see if their children are behind them. Clearly too self absorbed in their tasks and thoughts to care, what did these people think? that we live in a world so safe we can trust others to not do our children harm? if you ask me I’d say there should at least be a fine for these ignorant idiots. They don’t deserve to be parents, especially when they blatantly show such disregard for their children.
The other day, I overheard two different parents talk about ways to discipline their kids. One parent chose the ultimatum that either her son gets a job or she’s kicking him out of the house. The other parent was complaining about how her daughter has yet to give her anything for her bday. Yeah thats what her words were, Neither of them had any problems with everyone else hearing all this, I couldn’t help but wonder two things. First, what were they hoping to gain from doing this? and second why haven’t they considered talking to their kids? they ARE human beings too! I’m not saying I’m a perfect parent or that I have all the answers, but my daughter always tells me that her mother’s too busy to chat with her. So, what I do often is my daughter and I go out for ice cream and talk like best friends. Sometimes we go paddling a boat and just talk about my experiences when I was her age, as a result she understands my expectations and what’s on my mind too. Isn’t that much easier than ultimatums like those two parents? I certainly would think so..!
My daughter and i only got to spend the Saturday this week, as it is always the case on the alternate days so! we spent it hanging out and shopping together. In the evening though, we were both pretty hungry as we ate really early lunch so for dinner i had my meal at Metrotown‘s food court. Of all the choices i had, i was craving Naan so i went to curry king. It all looked good but the butter chicken and spicy chicken curry totally stood out! and at 7 bucks for a combination plus drink? it was a steal! it was great! except for one minor detail, the Basmati as much as i love it? it was sticking way too hard to the point that i could pick up a ton with just one fork push. This i wasn’t not impressed about, talk about trying to save money! thank god the curry wasn’t too bad!
The rest of the evening i spent it chatting with my little lady, she’s changed so much that we can have a conversation about anything and have a great time chatting about it. I sure hope this is the way she will remain always, it’s all a father can ask for right?
Someone who has lived his life and learned all there is, so he can pass it to his child.Someone who will sacrifice his own needs, for the sake of his child without question.
Someone who understands that it is he who in part brought life, so therefore he should be responsible for his child’s actions.
Someone who sets an example of what a man should be like, to his daughter and what kind of man to grow up to be to his son.
Someone who won’t let anything get in the way of his child’s goals
Someone who will honor his wife and never give up, no matter how hard life ever gets.
This is the first weekend I’ve spent with my little lady after my vacation, we went out to do some indoor kart racing, unfortunately i couldnt’ take my camera and drive at the same time. I guess certain rules apply even to indoors huh? anyways! we had a great time together! she’s learned a bit about drifting and i don’t have a problem with it, as long as it happens indoors lol!
Later on, we went to Londsdale Quay to do a little shopping for hair clips, we originally bought a pink one which is great because they are magnetic, meaning no teeth on the actual clips and holds on good! for $6 bucks that’s pretty good value
I always try to spend as much time with my daughter as i can, especially on my days off i drive from home to her school just to check on her and see how she’s doing. With her being among the tallest kids i am not too concerned about bullying, the school’s pretty good with the recess monitors but still! the heart of a father never stops worrying! SO i went to the food court to buy her favorite sushi combination of California rolls and shrimp tempura. Then i went to her school to visit her, upon arriving at the school her friends saw me and hurried into the library she was at to tell her that i was waiting outside. She walked out and gave me a loving hug before i could even say anything, then she handed me a card!
She asked her mom to take her to buy a card
Then she asked me to open up the card, with her eyes glittering in joy she pointed at the back of the card which she instead of using tape. Decided to use Dinosaurs which i always found fun to look at, you know! being a guy and all.
Inside the card, she drew me a paper card and in french at that! i sure am blessed because we originally didn’t enroll her into french speaking classes. Given how she was is trying to learn Cantonese and Mandarin, we figured we’d let her learn french later but! it appears she’s learning on her own!
This weekend wasn’t as exciting as my daughter and i had imagined it would be, we had to do some errands and look for a new digital camera that both she and i could use. I am going on vacation starting this coming Wednesday and won’t be blogging for about two weeks, so i wanted to take as many pictures as i can while i’m out. So, we celebrated that i’m getting out of town finally after awhile with cupcakes! yups! red velvet , mint , chocolate , cream cheese and sprinkles cupcake to be exact! yum!
My little lady called me from her home phone last night, it was adorable even for a 10 year old. I know some people will ask “So, what of it” and I’ve even had someone previously tell me that I spend too much time talking about her. But, to me it means a lot to hear from her since I only see her once or twice a week alternating.
Far too often I hear parents tell me that they have drifted too far from their children, that they have let them go because they feel they’ve done their part. I have no intention of letting that happen with my daughter, a father has no right to give up on his family no matter what happens. He doesn’t stop being a parent just because his child has decided to pursue her dreams, that’s just how I feel about it. So, how about you? what’s your opinion on this?
I was walking the usual path that I take to go home the other day, as I was passing the usual park I had expected to see the usual familiar sights, children playing and so on. Imagine my surprise when all I saw was two very young boys throwing punches and kicks, not even holding back anything. All the while the parents of these kids were busy having their teas and cheering it as playing, believe me when I say none of it was just fooling around, at one point one of the two got kicked on the chins and was clearly hurting but again the parents were too busy with whatever they were talking about to really notice.
Meanwhile, a young couple were holding their daughter between them. Looking at the same image I was, they were clearly unimpressed. So, I have to ask. What kind of ignorance does it take? to be the kind of parents with no regard for the children’s wellbeing? I kept walking when the father of the two boys finally noticed one of the boys wasn’t getting back up. Ignorant still, he just picked up his son and walked away. I guess some of us may as well accept it, that even in parenting? ignorance is still bliss to most…isn’t it?
Ps: Yes, i could of interfered but it wasn’t my place. This day and age, helping someone’s child can be perceived in a negative light
Growing up, i was never really close to my dad. He had his ideals that he wanted me to follow and had the old fashioned mentality, that he was the man and so therefore nobody had the right to comment on his decisions. It as always his way or the highway, i on the other hand was more expressive and let life happened as it did. It turned into a lot of long lectures and the like, i don’t think i remember a single moment in my life where i actually spent any good times with him, he’s trying to make up for lost time now that i have a daughter. Basically, giving me ideas of how to raise her but i ignore 98% of it as he has no right, long story.
I wonder if god was listening because, earlier today i saw a father and a young boy sitting across from each other enjoying a picnic at a plaza. The father was passing his son a few pearls of wisdom and the boy watched carefully with a slice of bread in his hand, my dad never gave me such dedication so i was envious of the little young man there. I hope, that i will be able to pass on these thoughts to my daughter. So that she may learn patience and understanding as well, something like this can be applied through all of life.
On my way home, i had walked past the library like i always do. It’s kind of a shortcut home after hopping off the skytrain (mass rapid transit here in Vancouver). There’s always really sweet moments going on, whether if it’s lovers having a picnic together on the grassy area or couples sitting on the bench cuddling and watching children, it’s always been a peaceful place.
Today though, was the absolute sweetest reminder of why i became a dad. During my childhood, most of my friends always wanted to just have a good time. They wanted to party and live life, but for some reason i was always motivated to build a strong foundation for a family, so. Imagine how sweet it was for me to watch a mother crawl around her infant trying to encourage her to try, of course the sweet little baby was perfectly comfortable with sitting and letting her mother do all the work. It was adorable, i remember my little one learned to crawl because she was motivated to go after a cd with music she seemed to really enjoy. I wanted to go up to the new mom to give her a suggestion, but it’s not my place and i didn’t want to ruin such a beautiful scene. So i kept walking, but on the corner of my eye i could see the little infant in the end got motivated and started to put her hands on the grass to lift herself to crawling. Such beautiful moments, remind us that not everything in life is about struggles to make money or pursue relationships. It all starts small, then it turns into something incredible and beautiful.
What a great Saturday! my little lady isn’t staying overnight today and because her school took longer. It meant that our day got shorter since i had to drop her off at her mother’s place later in the day. So, we went to a warehouse that’s still trying to sell off the surplus of stuff that didn’t sell during the Olympics and got a couple of complimentary mukmuk mascots she’s always loved these and later we went to costco for ice cream. So, it was a really good Saturday for just her and i to just chat about people and her week
I can’t believe it’s finally Friday, guess it might have something to do with how Monday was a holiday lol! gotta admit though, it’s been a great week since last Saturday. There hasn’t been drama and I’ve had so many of you kind readers to motivate me to write my best pieces yet, thank you so much for keeping my thoughts positive and my path true. I hope i can write even more better posts to entertain, move or create thoughts for you
I can’t wait for Saturday to come around the corner either, my sweet angel will be with me and we got plans for another day out together followed by a dinner date. I love listening to all her thoughts, watching my own child tell me what she’s thinking is like discovering all the thoughts she must of had in her mind when she was just watching me and gurgling as an infant. I also get a glimpse of what she’ll be like when she’s all grown up, don’t know how to explain it. I’m just so blessed that it’s me that gets to experience this SO, i probably won’t be blogging for a couple of days to spend as much time as i can with her children grow up so fast, i don’t want to miss anything.
I had a great dinner date with my angel yesterday, some Sushi at a restaurant and a really good chat about the questions she had deep down about people, normally her mom takes her out for dinner dates and this would be our first. I wanted to try an advice that my life insurance broker asked me to give a try, she said that instead of worrying about the kind of men my daughter would meet. That I should show her how a guy should treat a girl, this way she can get an idea between the right and wrong. I just want to make sure she’ll make the right choices in the future, after all. There are times I can’t be there for her right?
The evening ended with a rental of Rio (the animated movie) it’s our usual Saturday routine and it was great! what a great drama free Saturday compared to the last one!
It hasn’t been easy, being a single parent and trying to balance work with trying to finding someone that would accept my daughter into the equation. Time and again people have just been scared off by the assumption that i am asking them to help me care for my child, it’s almost laughable the way people assume. When you consider how she is 10 years old now, I am not asking for someone to help me pay the bills or babysit her. let alone become a parent with me, just someone that can treat my daughter and i right seems to be such a difficult thing to ask for, kind of gives you a picture into how so many people think in this day and age doesn’t it?
So glad it’s finally Friday, my angel and I are planning something fun this weekend, go kart racing! it’s hard to believe she’s already at the age where she’s thinking about driving those things. But, where better to start learning some skills right?
Lil lady has every right to have fun, she’s so good to me! last week she had food poisoning from the Richmond night market. She felt horribly bad the next day, but still got up and grabbed her purse to hang out with me. She clearly wasn’t feeling right but wasn’t about to let that ruin our day, she was determined to have fun with me and there was no but’s about it. Don’t know where she draws so much strength from but I’d like to think that the lord has blessed me with one of his angels, so here’s to getting this week over with and on to weekend fun
One of the loneliest moments of a being a single father, is late at night wondering how my daughter is doing. It is always the first thought because as a dad my child is my world, there’s never any doubts about it.
Then the feelings of concern fade as soon as they arrive when what my heart wants to say takes over, the feeling of loneliness and wishing for companionship. Not so much the physical aspect of it, but the desire to be near someone who understands and is willing to be part of my complicated life, I guess until that moment comes I will simply accept that I may be alone for some time to come. I have faith though, that someone will be with me.
Whenever my heart was broken, you’ve always been there to mend it back together with just a smile. Even when I was madly furious about something you always approached me and held me tight, somehow you knew how much I held in even without my saying anything and you never gave up. I thought I knew unconditional love, but then I found out how to redefine unconditional when you called me “Dad”.
The greatest gift of being a father, is the chance to watch my daughter achieve her dreams. Not for gratitude, but so she can teach future generations the lessons I’ve learned today. There truly is no greater feeling than this! (“,)
I’m so glad it’s finally Saturday, every second weekend i get to spend an overnight weekend with my little lady. Either we go do something crazy like plan to go to the suspension bridge and look over 200 feet down below us, or we simply hang out at home with heart to heart talks. She is the only reason i still keep going, it doesn’t matter the heartbreak or what anyone puts me through the weekdays. My angel always finds a way to heal me, so i’ll be posting a little less while i spend time with her as she reminds me how good of a job i am doing as a father thank you so much for everyone reading my posts over the week! you’re awesome!!
On my commute home the other dray, i walked into a train jam packed with people and an obnoxious passenger who had put his bike right in the middle of the walk way. Awkwardly i ignored him and went behind the wheel of his bike much to his disapproval but it didn’t matter to me because the bike was supposed to be on the LAST car, he reeked of alcohol too. He soon returned to his endless rambling.
As i looked to my left i noticed a mother had just napped her baby son in a small stroller, it amazed me that in a train full of people yacking away loudly. Earphones blasting so loud there was no point of hiding what they were listening to, plus a drunken old guy. That this little fellow could sleep so well, it made me wonder what could possibly drain the child so much and can they really block off the noise so easily? the drunkard yelled something out loud nearly interrupting my train of thought. I filtered him out and went back to my train of thought, the little boy reminded me of my daughter when she was around a year old. Her mom could never nap her, i don’t know why. But every time my angel climbed into my arms she’d fall asleep almost immediately, she would sleep soundly no matter the conversation in a living room. Time and again when i knew she was burned out, i’d pick her up into my arms and she’d be so much at peace that she didn’t want to go back down to the floor anytime soon.
I wonder if it’s the feeling of security and love we as parents give, if that’s the case? then i have to say that it goes both ways. It’s an amazing feeling that my daughter feels she can always come to me for comfort, but more so it’s like i’m being reminded i did a good job as a father and the approval of a daughter. Such an incredible feeling, if you’re a parent yourself? you know what i mean (‘,)
When will it stop?! why are people harming innocent babies? it’s through no fault of their own that they are brought to this world.
They arrive in a mother’s womb safely and lovingly only to enter a scary part of their lives, the initial stages they have every reason to cry at night when it’s all dark at night, then through the day they struggle through everything learning and not knowing hate or anger.
Yet, people still harm them like the recent attack in Alberta where a dad slashed his kid! it’s heart breaking to see a child fear so much when children put so much trust in their parents
I gave some thought as to what i haven’t tried yet, i learned a number of things within myself and have overcome a lot of my fears. So, the thought of my daughter came and i thought about what lesson i may learn about faith through her.
I then realized that as a toddler she always feared the swimming pool, every time we dressed her up in a cute little swimsuit she always had this look of worry in her face. She would kick all over the place desperately holding on to me because of her fear, but gradually she got over her fear and not long after, she stopped using floaters and started to swim. It was a few short years before she started competing in swimming races with her club, not long later we took her out to do some ice skating. She struggled of course, kept falling time and again and no matter how hard she fell, she always seemed to want to just give up but every time she did. She looked at me and it wasn’t the look of worry that i might be disappointed, but the look of determination.
In time she started taking figure skating lessons once she became better than i could of imagined, of course as a father i am beaming in pride. I’ve wondered what gave her so much drive and determination, i wasn’t there for her during the weekdays to cheer her on when i wish i could.
Then, it struck me and i realized it was the one thing we all forget. Faith, when she was fearful of the swimming pool she had faith that she would one day through her kicking understand what it is like to rid of the floaters. When she went onto the ice at the arena she had faith that she would understand how to skate, faith had in herself gave her the drive to continue. All i did, was let her understand this on her own. If it wasn’t for our faith in ourselves we would never be able to climb the highest mountains or reach our lofty goals, if it wasn’t for faith we would never understand how god must feel when he see us accomplish impossible goals.
What the hell’s going on with this world? economy is falling apart left right and centre, riots in a country that you would least expect it at. Wars over resources? is this really the world I brought my daughter to? is this really the true picture of the world? there’s not a day where I wake or sleep to now wondering if she’ll make friends with the wrong people or give into peer pressure. I was there the majority of my life and it wasn’t exactly easy. There were a lot if struggles that I thought I’d never make through the next day on, sometimes I have to wonder. Am I being selfish to be seeking companionship in a world so hurt? when I should be spending more time raising and guiding my daughter in the right direction? I know it’s off topic, but still. Sometimes i do wonder..
My sweet baby girl had so much fun today that when she was on the bus home with me, she rested her head on my shoulder from being so tired. So I wrapped my arm around her and gave her a kiss on the head like I always did to set her mind at ease. She then closed her eyes and fell asleep, the amusement park had taken all the energy out of her. As she slept, I watched her for a bit. There was a question on my mind when I felt like time had finally slowed down, the question I had is at what point did we lose all our innocence to a world so cruel? when did we learn about heartbreaks and being left in the open in the cold?here was a sleeping angel in my arms and she’s been nothing but good to me. Always anticipates my needs and knows when I’m upset or sad, not once has she failed at guessing how I’m feeling. So, how do some people become so cold hearted and cruel? somehow during my thoughts she woke up and gave me a hug as if she knew my mind had questions. This is when I realized, as long as I’m a good father to her, I will know that she’ll be ok and will be stronger than I give her credit for..
It was a good day for many, a friend was on a day date with her bf and another friend of mine is down in Vegas with her long time bf. Me? I went out for a date with my sweet baby girl! we went to watch the smurfs which was painful to watch. The entire theatre only had one or two kids actually laughing, another kid was busy yelling non stop and a mother was yelling at her toddler through the entire movie, so my angel and I enjoyed the better parts of the movie. It is an awesome day and then we’ll play some xbox before she goes to bed later and onto the next day when she greets me with a hug saying “Good morning daddy” i love sleepover weekends! :’)
At least it’s Friday, another end to the stressful roller coaster! I try to shake it all off when I hit the gym in the wee hours before the sun rises, but that doesn’t help. At least it keeps me fit though! I can’t wait to pick up my angel this weekend and hear about her week and drama, Yep! she’s only 10 and she already knows about it! between conflicts with some of her friends and her very controlling mother, believe me she’ll be just fine when she grows up. So, yeah it’s an interesting story every time I’m around her.It’s always fun chats, so I hope this day is over soon!
Finally, just one more day to go and i will have a great time with my angel. It’s like this every week for me lately, i go through stress over the week at work and go through emotional roller coasters hoping one day will end after another. Then comes the weekend when my angel heals me with her unconditional love for me and i feel that everything i go through during the week is worth it, there’s just something incredible about how much my daughter trusts me to keep her safe and her smile just erases all my worries. Except when she’s all grown up of course, then oh dear hah!
My angel is enjoying her first two months of being a double digit kid, well not a kid really. She’s literally a little lady now, since she was a toddler i always spoken to her like i normally would anyone that comes into my life. Soft and calm but still straight to the point, so she’s practicing the same when talking to me. So, lately we have had very meaningful heart to heart conversations about life and what’s coming. She’s practically a sponge for information, always asking and always learning and at the same time commenting on her opinions. It really is amazing how fast they go from needing to be carried around to looked after, then before you know it they are discussing topics and issues with you. I don’t know where time went, maybe i was so busy trying to pursue a relationship to fill the gap in my life that i didn’t see her develop into the girl she is today. What does this mean though? that i should of spent more time focusing on raising her and less time running around in circles after what would probably never happen? well, i don’t know but i’m happy and am blessed nevertheless for having such a wonderful daughter in my life..
I’m looking at all these news about what’s happening to the world, serial murderers on the lose. Psychopaths committing the most horrific crimes all over the city without remorse, child killers being granted freedom over technicalities. I know, there’s nothing much we can do about these but I’m a single dad and I’m always up all night worrying, between my almost non existent love life and being a dad to
my child? I’m really worried. I’m sure I’m not the only one either, if only you knew how many lectures and lessons I give my child every time I get a chance, you would think I’m paranoid. I don’t preach for hours on end though, just bite size pieces here and there. Then again, with the way the world around us is. Wouldn’t you do the same if you were in my shoes?
The night has ended for me, i had a great day with my angel, there were as always lots of heart to heart talks and lectures from the old man, I know she listened to everything I said since I've held her in my arms and talked to her, long before her first few words so i know when her mind is listening or not, it's an incredible connection unlike any other, that of father and daughter and am truly blessed to have the healing of my angel, after all the heartaches and lonely moments that I go through the entire week, the moments when I need the reminder that I am alright, even if I'm alone at the end of the day, I still mean something to someone unconditionally.
